The Playpen

You are doing a fantastic job. If I don’t say it enough it’s because I get wrapped up in all the little daily details; the dog waking up the baby, chicken nuggets, stickers on the water pitcher, home accent lighting…you know the drill.

This has been, and is getting really hard. Not for me, for you. I, myself, become cranky and frustrated if I get less than six hours of sleep a night. I can’t for the life of me understand how you continue to be such a terrific wife and mother on less than three.

Its important that you know and, for whatever reason, that the internet knows how appreciative I am of all of your hard work, patience and understanding during this period. Two children is most certainly harder than one and, even though all of our friends told us so and we thought we were prepared, I’m still shocked sometimes at how much harder it is.

But I’ve noticed. I’ve been paying attention. Somehow through it all you still manage to be pleasant and cheerful, speak softly and lovingly to our kids, not lose your patience and, in general, be an awesome mom. I know how hard you are trying and I know that sometimes it feels like you’re failing in certain areas, but you’re not. I know for a fact that, at the end of the day, those kids are going to come out perfect, and that’s because of you.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. Frankie will get this potty thing figured out. She really will. Dominick will start to sleep longer soon, I promise (did you hear that, Dom? Don’t make a liar out of me, dammit!). I don’t care if the house becomes untidy or if there are dishes in the sink. If you’re patient with me, I’ll get them done for you eventually. From here on out I’m going to ignore all of that stuff, those annoying, frustrating and irritating little details that happen on a daily basis and focus on what’s important – the fact that you’ve given me two of the most beautiful kids I’ve ever seen and the fact that we are lucky to be where we are. Nothing else matters, and I’m going to remember that.

I just want you to know that I love you and that, no matter what, I’m here for you. Hang in there. You’re gonna make it though this.

Thank you for all you do.

-Matt

1. Kori Says:
   September 25th, 2009 at 2:44 pm

   I think this is a lovely, lovely post, and I hope you make sure Aline reads this. Not many men (or women, for that matter) are so good at letting the little stuff go AND acknoweledging all of the great stuff that their partner does. I am so guilty of this, and thanks to you, I am going to do something about it. Today.
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2. McMommy Says:
   September 25th, 2009 at 5:28 pm

   After reading this post, I’m officially putting my own husband in the doghouse. He will be allowed out once he composes something as honest and beautiful as this.

   If the past is any indication of the future, he may be in there awhile…
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3. aline Says:
   September 25th, 2009 at 9:30 pm

   thank you babe, you are my ROCK!

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